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I believe the last time I mentioned the foster care process it was stalled. At this point I’d say it is dead in the water. Not long after we started the process G’s unit received alert orders that they would be deployed. At the time it was a year out so we thought we’d go ahead and foster for a year until he departed. We waffled a bit, went ahead and took the CPR class, then stalled. Frankly, I realized that as long as G is First Sargent here, he is not really available for family – he’s not ours. It eventually reached a point where I couldn’t even count on him to take B twice a month while I went to Bible study. Therefore, foster care would be all mine all the time.

Now I’m not meaning to complain about G. That is just where we are right now. Not to mention the rough waters we just came through with G’s mom the last few months of ’08. I had to come to terms with the fact that foster care was more than I could handle all by myself, and would add stress to G’s already maxed out life, as well. So, that is where we are. Perhaps after deployment, when G ends his military career, we will begin again.

In the meantime I think prayer and soul searching are in order. We really thought this was where God was calling us, but have found ourselves to be in error. Perhaps He’s just preparing us for something down the road. Who knows, at this point. Our steps have not led where I thought they were going, and I’m resigning myself to B being an only child for a little while longer. And that’s not proving to be so bad, for now.


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Thanks to the FIAR board, I’ve been alerted to an on-line petition to give homeschoolers an opportunity to defend their choice to homeschool. The NEA recently took a stand against homeshooling in their 2007-2008 resolutions:

The National Education Association believes that home schooling programs based on parental choice cannot provide the student with a comprehensive education experience. When home schooling occurs, students enrolled must meet all state curricular requirements, including the taking and passing of assessments to ensure adequate academic progress. Home schooling should be limited to the children of the immediate family, with all expenses being borne by the parents/guardians. Instruction should be by persons who are licensed by the appropriate state education licensure agency, and a curriculum approved by the state department of education should be used.

The Association also believes that home-schooled students should not participate in any extracurricular activities in the public schools. The Association further believes that local public school systems should have the authority to determine grade placement and/or credits earned toward graduation for students entering or re-entering the public school setting from a home school setting.

This being the season of Thanksgiving, I can’t help but think about the brave men and women that brought their families through great difficulties to this new land in order to live, worship, and bring up their families as they saw fit, without government intrusion. My husband serves in the military to defend these freedoms. I have personally known many homeschooled kids over the past 20 years and find them to be delightful, well rounded people who are comfortable in their own skin and in any social setting. I signed to defend the rights of parents, who know their own children better than anyone, to decide what educational setting is best for each of their children. Whether or not anyone reading this in the US personally chooses to homeschool, I encourage you to sign the petition to support parents right to have that option.

Homeschoolers Against NEA Philosophy

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I haven’t been on in so long that my stats page lists posts and comments under “A while ago.” 🙂

Actually, I’ve thought about posting many times. But, G had been attending the 1SG course the past three weeks. He was home for a couple of days and is now off on his new unit’s AT (annual training). Let me just say that this past year at the Sergeant’s Major Academy spoiled me good. On top of that, G hasn’t worked with a reserve unit for many years.  For the past 12 years he’s worked admin, pretty much. All that to say that having 1SG course and AT back to back really stinks!

Alas, I really can’t complain knowing so many with their soldiers deployed over seas for a year or more. Buck it up, right?!  And I really think these next few weeks will be much better as B and I are starting to learn our way around and get to know some folks. That’s what was hard – brand new place with NO support network. Can I just talk to another adult for a few minutes, please???

Well, that is becoming a possibility now. We were invited to a playgroup this past week by someone we met at church. Bryan had a blast playing with the other kids and I got to know some other moms. Big sigh. We’ve also connected with a local home school group and will attend our second park day this week. Oh, and Tuesday is National Night Out, and one of the neighbors came by to invite us to a block party! Yeah! We’re going to be OK.

I have lots more to write. We’ve found the church of our dreams. I’m starting “school” with B on Monday. And we have lots of home projects – don’t you just love those. Guess I need to get back in the groove here before my brain boils over.

So, how’s life in blogland? I’ve missed you guys. 🙂

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Don’t you just love that word. There is so much wrapped up in it. It’s exciting and fun and hard and sad all at the same time. As a military wife I’ve had my share of it, although not as much as some I know. This past weekend it all caught up with us and we all crashed on Sunday.  We’ve been cranky with each other today, but I know it’s just the transition. We’ll adapt and adjust in time. I’m anxious to get back into a routine, but that will take time.

I’m at the local library utilizing their wireless service and just realized that I have about 10 minutes before they close, so will have to keep this short. I was supposed to research our Internet/phone/wireless options and order B’s curriculum. Well, I got the research done, but I’ll have to order the curriculum later as I’m out of time. Perhaps G will be able to make a decision from my research and get us connected at home soon. Then I can order the curriculum at midnight if I want to. 🙂

We’ve been camping out in our empty house since Wednesday (6/27). Here’s a list of fun things a four year old boy can do in an empty house:

  • balloon volleyball
  • pretend football
  • Nerf dart guns
  • monster truck races
  • pretend baseball
  • running and tumbling on the floor.

As you can see, B’s been have the time of his life in spite of our lack of ‘stuff.’ But, alas, the stuff is being delivered tomorrow. So we’ll be busy once again with the unpacking and putting away of stuff.

Happy Independence Day!

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Whew! These past few weeks have been very full. My in-laws came for G’s college graduation. Be sure and congratulate G on that accomplishment. He’s actually talking about going on for a Masters. Wow! After that was the graduation ball where I got gussied up in a pretty dress. 🙂 Then we had B’s last soccer game – my folks came for that.  Then G graduated from the Sargent’s Major Academy – my folks came for that, too. After the graduation, B went home with my folks and we headed out to central TX to find a house.

We came home still not having a signed contract, it seems to be a seller’s market right now in central TX. But, Sunday, we finally came to an agreement with the seller of our third option (yeah, we’d tried for two other houses, first). Our Realtor emailed us the contract, we printed, signed scanned and emailed it back. Now we’re waiting for a copy signed by the seller. It’s a great house. It just has a few minor issues like broken windows and some very royal blue carpet throughout the main floor. It’s funny, all our parents think it’s beautiful. My mom’s trying to convince me not to replace the carpet. 🙂 Our first reaction when we looked at the house was to turn around and walk right back out the door. But we deciced to ignore the blue carpet and look at the potential. And it has lots of potential.

So, it looks like we’ll have a place to live. Now we’re back in the west and G’s serving staff duty for a couple of weeks at the Academy. I have brought B to NM for VBS at my folks’s church. So for three hours while he’s there, I actually have down time. I don’t know what to do with myself. So, here I am rambling out a blog post. Tomorrow I’ll go visit my brother, who also lives in NM. And I have some reading to do.

After this brief reprieve, I’ll step back into the whirlwind. The movers come to pack us up on the 19th. So there’s much to do to prepare for that. Once we get moved, there’s the unpacking and rearranging. G has to return to the Academy for First Sargent School (yeah, he got it backwards, usually that comes before the Academy) for his new position. When he returns his unit will be in the middle of some training exercises, so he’ll hit the ground running. I’m anxious to get B’s curriculum ordered and get started on a garden. Hopefully we can get some fall things planted in time this year. At the very least we’ll prepare for next spring.

I notice that my blog stats have taken a dive. But there are a few faithful folks still checking on me. So I want to say thanks to those folks. I did say in my last post that my posting would get spotty. 🙂 I’ll try to do a better job of keeping up. But know that when I step back in that whirlwind I may have a hard time getting to the computer. But I trust the whirlwind will die down once we get moved, and I can get back to business here.

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I got to see some family this past weekend and have been doing some pondering. For the most part I think I have a pretty great family (thinking of aunts, uncles, & cousins). They are wonderful people and I’m proud to be related to them. As a matter of fact, I used to secretly wish I had been born to one of my aunts & uncles instead of my parents. I know they had their own issues and struggles, but they had something my parents didn’t have – a strong marriage relationship that withstood all those issues and struggles. They were healthy families, and still are.

I didn’t really grow up with my cousins, although I saw them occasionally at family gatherings. So they don’t really know me, and I don’t really know them. I mean I have gotten to know them a little over the past few years as we’ve grown into adults. I make it a point to visit whoever I can when we get home to Texas. None of them has ever visited us, but I try not to dwell on that. But that fact does lead to my next thought.

I’ve always felt a bit of an outsider with my extended family. My little family, the four of us, are sort of the “black sheep” family. My parents seemed to always be having some sort of difficulty, be it financial or relational, or who knows what. And my mom’s relationship with my grandmother (dad’s mom) was pretty volatile. Hoo, boy, did they have some fights. I don’t really like to think about it. Those were not fun times. So, our little unit was like the problem child of the extended family.

Then, enter my soldier guy whisking me away to new lands – my first time out of Texas. 🙂 From my family background to becoming an Army wife, my concept of family goes beyond those folks I’m related to. That really gelled for me our first few years of marriage while we lived in Hawaii. We were newlyweds, island bound and far from home. Family during those years became our church and our neighbors. We are still in touch with a few of those folks. We speak fondly of our Hawaii family, our St. Louis family, our Virginia family, and now our El Paso family. Yup, even though we’re only here a short time, we’ve somehow formed a little family here, too. We wish we could take our church and some of our neighbors with us when we move. Ugh, now I have tears. Moving on . . .

I even have step-family. Now, I was 29 when my folks finally divorced, and past 30 when my dad remarried. So I did not grow up with these step-folks. But honestly, I don’t think I could love them any less. My step-mom is such a beautiful person from the inside out and I’m so glad I can call her mom. This past weekend we got to spend some time with my step-brother and get to know him better. I also have a step sister, but I haven’t really gotten to know her. It’s hard to get to know someone who is bent on destroying herself. She’s an alcoholic on a downhill spiral that’s pretty hard to watch, powerless to stop her. But, that’s probably another post for another day.

Next, enter adoption into our family. I really believe that we gained another whole family in that, although we don’t get to see them or talk to them. I hope and pray that will change one day. I’ll talk more about that in the next post. But this is a part of my family – we’re tied to them through B. They are where he came from, his roots. And I want for him to know them. Shoot, I want to know them. I really do.

So, this is my family, warts and all. I love every last one of them and am thankful to have them in my life. My family ties go beyond blood relation in so many ways, although that is included. Each time the Army takes us to a new place, I look forward to meeting my new family, it’s always growing and changing. I suppose I could even consider my fellow bloggers that read & comment here some sort of family, but that may be a bit of a stretch. 🙂

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This has been another PMS week. I actually started crying yesterday when my husband called to tell me something would take effect that we had already discussed. Poor thing, he headed home as soon as he was released to make sure I was alright. I mention that here in case anyone else is struggling with menstrual woes and might be looking for information I linked to on my other blog. I started today, so I’ll likely feel better in the next day or so. 🙂 I hope everyone has a great weekend.

ANOTHER THOUGHT: I should have a button made that I can pin on when I feel the symptoms coming that states “It’s that time” or simply “PMS.” That way G will know what’s happening when I start to flake out on him, and when he should, perhaps tread more lightly. 🙂

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